Saturday, August 31, 2013

Being an INTJ Personality

The definitions for the INTJ personality are as follows:
I:  Introverted types prefer quiet reflection and privacy. Information processing occurs for introverts as they explore ideas and concepts internally.
N:  Intuitive types prefer a learning atmosphere in which an emphasis is placed on meaning and associations. Insight is valued higher than careful observation, and pattern recognition occurs naturally for Intuitive types.
T:  Thinking types desire objective truth and logical principles and are natural at deductive reasoning.
J:  Judging types will thrive when information is organized and structured, and they will be motivated to complete assignments to gain closure.
The INTJ personality type is one of the rarest and most interesting types – comprising only about 2% of the U.S. population (INTJ females are especially rare – just 0.8%).  INTJs are often seen as highly intelligent and perplexingly mysterious. INTJ personalities radiate self-confidence, relying on their huge archive of knowledge spanning many different topics and areas. INTJs usually begin to develop that knowledge in early childhood (the “bookworm” nickname is quite common among INTJs) and keep on doing that later on in life.
Well, that sounds like me.  Years ago when I thought I would try online dating, I went on the eHarmony site and answered a bunch of questions.  They told me I was compatible with only 3% of the population.  Seemed like a waste of money to join. 

I had a good male friend who always told me to 'dummy down' and I inadvertently discovered my IQ result when I was in high school, and well, I always knew I was the smartest person in the room.  And yes, I was, and still am, a 'bookworm'.  If we went visiting family when I was young, I always had a book with me.  I was thrilled when they opened a library within bike-riding distance of my childhood home.

INTJs know what they know and more importantly – they are confident in that knowledge. Unsurprisingly, this personality type can be labeled as the most independent of all types. INTJs are very decisive, original and insightful...
INTJ personalities are perfectionists ... also have an unusual combination of both decisiveness and vivid imagination... If someone with the INTJ personality type starts working with a new system, they will regard the task as a moral obligation, merging their perfectionism and drive into one formidable force. Anyone who does not have enough talent or simply does not see the point, including the higher ranks of management, will immediately and likely permanently lose their respect.

Have I mentioned before how I have no tolerance for incompetence?  Especially when we are paying someone for a task and they are incapable of completing it?

They are natural leaders and excellent soon as the leader fails and there is a need to take the steering wheel, the INTJ will not hesitate to act...

I used to tell folks that my motto was: Lead or get out of my way!

Alas, we all have our negatives, and to that aforementioned eHarmony quiz:

There is one area where their brilliant mind often becomes completely useless and may even hinder their efforts – INTJs find it very difficult to handle romantic relationships, ... they are likely to be completely clueless when it comes to attracting a partner.

The main reason behind this is that INTJ personalities are both private and incredibly rational – they find it very difficult to understand the complex social rituals that are considered part of the dating game, especially in Western societies. Things like flirting or small talk are unnatural to them; furthermore, INTJs (especially females) tend to see typical attraction tactics (such as feigning disinterest) as incredibly stupid and irrational...

Oddly enough, my best friends throughout my life have always been men.  Smart men, of course.  Just not anyone I would want to marry.  Once was enough, Thank You.


  1. Wow, this is so interesting and you never know, just maybe one day you will find that dream guy,one that totally gets you :)

    Lucy from Lucy's Reality

    1. As an INTJ I don't believe in such romantic expectations. Dreamming is not for INTJs. Marriage for me (very INTJ woman) is a rational thing to do when you don't have any respectable role within your family of origen and other people. Respectable roles are the ones you are the only one entitled to accomplish. Be it a professional or within the family or a bunch of involvement with the community (witch is not an INTJ thing), I see useful and practical to search for a compatible mate (as close as possible to be a match) where there is an agreable potencial for physicall contact.

  2. So how did you find out that you were an INTJ personality?

    1. Anyone can go to Google and type MBTI - Personaly Types Test. You will find in between some that are excellent sites for free result.

  3. Interesting that I am also an INTJ however it is supposed to be so rare? Perhaps I subconsciously recognised the same traits in you, through your writing?

    I certainly relate to both your comments and those online.

    I really enjoyed this post.

    Thank you.

    1. By research it was foun that INTJs men are 2-3 percent of the population and we women INTJs are just 0.8 -1 percent.

  4. How did you handle working in a government position? My intj self had a lot of difficulty with institutions.

    1. Is known that INTJs thrive in huge institutions. We like to operate within wide scopes and with multiple systems involved.

  5. How did you handle working in a government position? My intj self had a lot of difficulty with institutions.

  6. It looks you wrote about you and don't return to read comments or answer them.

    I am an INTJ woman living in America now because I married my husband through one of these sites you described. We are married now for 18 years.

    If I was not married I couldn't survive retirement. Family of origen could not fullfill my need of having my own family. I have a dsughter, married with 2 kids. The family gatherings are based in all things that doesn't interest me. Small and domestic talk.

    It looks,that the world couldn't supply ne in all needs met at the same time. I had my family of origin and raised my daughter alone while working as an executive in a multinational company.

    Then, I lacked a mate and all that comes with it, which is a lot, really.

    Now my husband and I are becoming old and I am getting restless if I loose him. I mean, if he dies first. This is why I always kept my place in my country.

    It proved inneficient, because a physicall space without family or friends do not fullfill anything. When I tried to stay more time in my country to cultivate attachments, it didn't work, because people don't invest emotional energy with the ones that are always departing. This is valid in here with my husband's people too - but no real losses here or in there, since to attend INTJs needs are not easy task because of the social rules and rituals.

    Anyway, I got my attention.attracted by your comment that being a so rare type would be impossible to find a mate and I had the opposite conclusion 18 years ago. I thought that would be impossible to find a mate in just a local territory, but extending it to the whole planet would be most probable.

    I could commit because my family expects from me an average being and this is not possible. So both ways frustration. I could see that once married, your kids do not belong to you anymore and vice versa.

    Now I am strugging in the present to visualize my future as an elder if I get to be a widow, because I can't find anything that attracts me and I haven't done yet.


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