My answers are yes, yes, and no. And since I do not keep in touch with these folks from 50 years ago, I have decided to skip my 50th reunion on Saturday. (I decided that before I found out I was having house guests for the week-end.)
I have attended three reunions in the past. I went to my ten year reunion with my husband. Many attendees were there with spouses. I think what many of us discovered is that bringing a spouse to a reunion is like bringing an overcoat to the desert, i.e. you are dragging it around the entire day and have no use for it whatsoever. (Unless of course you graduated together.)
At the 20 year reunion, I do not remember seeing any spouses. It was also the reunion where everyone was ready to tell tales long hidden about fellow classmates. That reunion was pretty well-attended and quite an eye-opener for me.
The 30th reunion was not so well-attended, but proved to be another eye-opener. There were men wearing leisure suits (this is now 1994) and still living in the 60's when it came to lifestyle (hanging out at McDonald's? Really?). Some of the women still had the same 60's hairstyles and the same pink lipstick. I felt like I had traveled in a time machine whilst wearing a designer Carmen Marc Valvo evening gown. I realized that other than graduating with these people, we had not very much in common.
So, earlier this year when I received an email asking for my current information, I answered the questions and sent it back. When asked if I wanted to purchase a book with info on my fellow classmates, I politely declined.
I doubt that anyone will miss me on Saturday. I'll be having dinner with my family in a nice quite Italian restaurant. I am sure we will be trading travel adventure stories, their's in Paris and mine in Russia.
And I am sure all of my old classmates will be spending the evening talking about who made it and who didn't, who looks young and who aged poorly, and all the same cattiness I heard in the past. Who needs it.